“Do you remember me? In the past I was not completely honest with you. I had talked to you about an appointment but never followed through. The truth is I was in a secret relationship with a past SP and had agreed with her I would not see anyone else. I was so tempted to see you but at the last minute didn’t want to screw up my deal with her. Well we have AGREED to go out separate ways. She went back to a previous sugar daddy that supports her at a very high level. It is a deal that she cannot turn down and I don’t like it but it is best for her and her family. I like her too much to not let her do what is right for her future.
So, I am back on the look out for a good time, and I would like to see you finally. Will you still see me?”
A member of Midwesttimez.com made a good catch by copying this message that was intended as a PM but was posted briefly to an availability thread by provider “Loveinit.” He thought it was interesting and so do I. The member who posted it lists his age as 66 – old enough to have developed at least a modicum of self confidence. But instead, he’s chasing after hookers as if they were girlfriends and making himself appear foolish in the process.
I’ve been provided with messages like this before from various providers that I know. And, the more I see this kind of “pussified” communication from hobbyist to provider the more I start to wonder if all hobbyists lack the confidence necessary to have a real relationship with a women that they’re not paying by the hour. Maybe the old adage that hobbyists pay because they *have* to is true – at least for many of them.
I’m the first to dismiss the PUA (Pick Up Artist) subculture. Things like “negs” and “funny cocky” are ridiculous. But, the underlying theme of this line of thought – confidence – is useful and it’s right on as a mantra to live by. There’s nothing wrong with being polite and charming as long as you do it in a confident manner. But being clinging and behaving like a servile cur is a sure way to get separated from you rmoney almost instantly with no return on the investment.
I’ve heard some of the “Board Lore” about guys who’ve been sucked into turning over a significant amount of cash and assets to a beguiling provider. I thought this was a minority of hobbyists. But, posts like the message above seem to indicate that this is the rule rather than the exception. Does anyone have stories about hobbyists who’ve succumbed to this lack of confidence problem and ended up poorer in the process?